Sayings of the Scholars about the necessity for the One calling to Islam to adorn himself with Kindness.
By Dr. Fadhl Al-Ilaahi
Many scholars have clearly explained the necessity for the one calling to Islam to adron himself with kindness whenever commanding the good and forbidding the evil.
Imam Ahmed (Rahimahullah) was asked : “How should one command (the good and forbid the evil)?”.
He replied : “Command (the good and forbid the evil) with kindness and humility”. Then he said : “If he hears (about something) that he disapproves of then he should not become angry because he will wish that he had not done so ” ( 50) .
Al-Imam Sufyaan (Ath-Thawri ) said : “No one should command the good and forbid the evil except he who has three qualities:
1. He is kind when he commands the good and he is kind when he forbids the evil.
2. He is just when commands the good and he is just when he forbids the evil.
3. And he is knowledgeable about that which he commands to and he is knowledgeable about that which he forbids ( 51)
Sheikh Abdu-ur-Rahmaan ibn Nasr Ash-Shayzaree said while discussing the character of the one who seeks reward in the hereafter:
” His character should include kindness, gentleness in speech, a cheerful face, and an easy going manner when commanding the people with good and forbidding (them from evil). Verily this is the most effective way of changing the hearts and reaching the desired goal. Allah the Mighty and the Majestic said addessing His Prophet and Messenger ( Sallahu alyhi wa sallam):
“And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh hearted, they would have broken away from about you” (Surah Aali Imran verse 159)
That is because excessive rebuke and scolding might be more likely to induce further disobedience: and harshness in religious exhortation and spiritual consultation leads to the rejection of what was said .” ( 52)
Sheikh ul Islam ibn Taymiyah (RA) said : : These three things are necessary ( for commanding good and forbidding the evil):
3. And Patience.
Knowledge (is required) before commanding the good and forbidding the evil, kindness (must be utilized) along with it, and patience is required afterwards! And (furthermore), it is necessary that each of these three qualities (knowledge , kindness and paitence) accompany each other in every stage ( i.e before commanding the good and forbidding the evil, along with it, as well as afterwards)”. ( 53)
Al Imam Ahmed ibn Muhammed Al-Maqdasiyy said : “Some of the salaf have said: “No one should command the good excpe that he does with kindness, (an no one should) Prohibit the evil excep that he does so with Kindness. Command the good except that he does so with gentleness, Prohibit the evil except that he does so with gentleness. command the good except that he does so with knowledge, Prohibit the evil except that he does so with knowledge “. ( Mukhtasir Minhaj-ul-Qaasideen page 138)
Refer the book : KIndness by Sheikh Dr. Fadhl Al-Ilaahi
Chapter four: Sayings of the Scholars about the necessity for the One calling to Islam to adorn himself with Kindness.
see pages 57 to 59
50: Refere to the book entitled Al-Amr bil Ma’roof wan Nahiy anil Munkar by Abu Bakr Al-Khilaal ( page 50))
51: : Refer to the book entitled Al-Amr bil Ma’roof wan Nahiy anil Munkar by Abu Bakr Al-Khilaal ( page 46)
52: : Refer to the book entitled Nihaayat ur-Rutbah fee talab il Hasbah by ibn Bassam Al-Muhtasib ( page 9, 13))
53: Refer to the book Al-Amr bin Ma’roof wan Nahiy anil Munkar by Sheikh ul islam ibn Taymiyyah (page 30))